Los Angeles is popular for palm trees, Hollywood, beautiful people and their never-ending SINGLEHOOD. No wonder the city is better known as ‘the city of singles’ instead of ‘the city of angels’. Swimming in the dating pool, skimming through the actors/lyft driver, name-droppers and beauty gurus, you know that no matter how hard you look, the right one just doesn’t seem to come your way. Be it the dating sites, the matchmakers or the dating apps in Los Angeles, people got themselves everywhere to find new people but are they actually doing anything to be found? I know, that hits hard right? Well, it is what it is. You’ve been playing the dating game only halfway by looking so hard but doing nothing to be found.
Since, I’ve given you the realization of your life, I might as well help you a little to deal with it. Here’s how you can put an end to your singledom-
- MAKE AS MANY FRIENDS AS YOU CAN
Making friends is extremely essential to finding a date. Where friends can act as cupids, they are also the ones who would help you when that Ryan Gosling like face would turn out to be a complete jerk. Other than that, these friends would bring in add-ons to your guest list for that house party you host to meet a few more cuties. The new kids to the city, get so involved in finding a partner that they forget to make friends which ends them up all alone. So, make friends before finding dates.
- LEARN TO MAKE SMALL TALKS
I know, this sounds crazy because small talks are a huge turn off on the first date but for that, you need to have a date. What small talk does is gets you in the game and helps you to put yourself forward and take the initiative. This means that you let yourself be ‘looked’ at so that you can be ‘found’. So, talk to the grocery store owner, greet the watchman and know how he’s doing, talk to that old lady in your building. Who knows, she might set you up with her cute grandson?
- LOOK BEYOND THE DATING APPLICATIONS IN LOS ANGELES
There are so many Local dating apps in Los Angeles. Sure, they offer a lot of convenience but convenience to what? Ghosting and catfishing? Well there was a time dating apps worked but now they throw you in the bottomless pit of swiping and texting that leads nowhere. What you need is to get out of the comfort zone and try meeting people outside the screens. Try the evergreen singles bars or join a dance class (salsa is big in LA). You can walk a dog as well. A cute puppy is always a great ice-breaker and of course you don’t have to own a dog for that. Be a part-time dog walker and make a few bucks while looking for a date.
The bottom line is that working on yourself and putting your best self out there is as essential as looking for someone. Expecting to find someone at your home with a 3 by 4- inch screen is a mirage. I mean, how well can u judge a person with pictures and few texts. However, meeting someone in- person, lets you reach into their souls and see their beauty beyond the pictures. So, get off your couches and get yourself in the real world to find a real person to go on a real date with.